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Do You See Us?

9/24/2020

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Written by Jessica Patay, Founder/Executive Director, We Are Brave Together

Do you see us?

We are the parents who have always parented in an altered universe, and now we are being asked to live in yet another altered universe with no end in sight.

Do you see us?

We are the parents whose children highly depend on structure and routine to feel secure and safe and less anxious.

We are the ones who need a multitude of people to support our child’s ability to learn, to play, to speak, to toilet, to eat, to walk, and to participate in the school day.

We are the ones who have NOT been trained in special education, occupational therapy, physical therapy, feeding therapy, sensory therapy, equine therapy, speech therapy, art therapy, and music therapy. Nor do we have degrees in behavior modification or applied behavior analysis.

Do you see us?

We are the parents who rely on others to help keep our children stable, secure and safe; not running away, or harming themselves or others.

We are the ones who rely on specialists to teach our children how to talk, behave, how to be in community with others, how to take turns and play appropriately.

Do you see us?

We are the ones whose children have been made to feel as if they are not a priority in our school systems, state systems, and in our culture and society.

We are the parents who are not worried about threats to our child’s education because we want them to get into college.  This may never be an option.  We simply want them to be happy, learning, growing, and around patient and compassionate peers.

We are the parents who watch the neurotypical children in the family suffer because of the overwhelming needs of their siblings with disabilities, as 24/7 life at home is suffocating and exhausting.

Do you see us?

We are the ones who make 100 decisions every day. Because our children cannot.

We are the ones whose children will not grow up and move away and live fully independent lives. Ever.

We are the ones who are desperate for breaks from caregiving. Desperate.

Do you see us?

7 Comments
Gina Hsu
9/24/2020 08:57:12 am

Thank you Jessica for saying the things I cannot say- for your honesty. Your words made me cry.

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jessica
9/24/2020 10:41:06 am

Gina, I am sorry I made you cry--but hopefully you feel that I see you, we see you. You are not alone.

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Malena Loo
9/24/2020 09:46:42 am

Yes,yes,so much and all of this yes. This is beautiful , thank you sharing . Needed to read this today.
xoxo

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jessica
9/24/2020 10:41:37 am

Thank you for reading and for sharing! I see you!

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Sara Vargas
9/24/2020 10:05:14 am

This is so good! thank you for sharing!

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jessica
9/24/2020 10:42:03 am

You are so very welcome Sara! I see you!

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Patti Jasinski
9/25/2020 09:35:36 am

I wans just thinking today what am I here for? and then I remembered that I am here for both my kids and husband, my mom and friends. I am making a difference by being me and advocating where needed for my child. Looking into alternative treatments for medical conditions. I am here with a purpose.

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